Cyber Dating and Family
Cyber dating involves the facilitation of the internet as a base where individuals in need of romantic partners seek for potential partners and ‘advertise’ themselves in hopes of creating successful romantic relationships. These sites allow members to upload photos and videos of themselves and browse for other people’s personal information. After the identification of a suitable partner, the individual contacts them through additional services such as webcasts, online chat and message boards. Cyber dating has established an ongoing trend in social networks and contributes to both positive and negative implications in relationships. This essay seeks to establish implications in cyber dating- both positive and negative. The prevailing perception of the society on cyber dating centers on negativity, however, cyber dating has advantages at both personal and society levels.
History of cyber dating:
In the past decades, people met through schools, work, religious affiliations or social events hence the shy, busy and migratory people remained socially disadvantaged. Such ventures led to the creation of the first cyber dating sites enabling users to create personal profiles and search for people they deemed as matches (Buchanan 102). Over the years, the cyber dating evolved by addition of communication options such as instant messaging and webcam based video dating. This has attracted many people since, due to its reliability in terms of security, accuracy, affordability and speed. Although people have started to trust and experiment more with cyber dating, it has affected (both positively and negatively) their lives in terms of relationships and family in relation to society norms (Strong &Cohen 267).
Implications of cyber dating on relationships:
Cyber dating has led to liberation of sexual minorities who include the inter-sexed people and gay/lesbian people who continue to enjoy the newly-found freedom (Reed 49). It is this freedom that has led to wrangles and confrontations with some of the authorities and even some family members who are not yet ready to “accept” them. Within the confines of profile names in dating sites, gays and such profiled personalities are able to express themselves without being prejudiced by the society. Therefore, through cyber-dating, the sexual minorities are able to conduct their activities in privacy away from people of opposite ideologies. This enables their continued existence free from judgments and away from the public eye.
Cyber dating has been at the front in the prevention and spread of H.I.V and other S.T.I’s. This has been achieved through the rise of disclosure of personal health statuses online between potential romantic partners (Ioinson & Carina 15). The people dating in social websites tend to fill profiles about their conditions with hope of finding people with similar statuses. The unification of two partners that undergo similar stigmatization is helpful because the two are able to help each other through the tough situations and offer hope to each other. Therefore, cyber dating enables people with HIV AIDS and other illnesses to support each other and share experiences for their benefit.
Cyber dating has also resulted in less display of nudity in the society. Sexual activities in the streets have reduced significantly because the people in need of sexual favors can link through social media and meet in designated rendezvous. Therefore, through meeting online and, the publicity aspect is omitted and the society enjoys less immorality from lesser sexual activities in the streets away from young minds. Most young people tend to engage in prostitution through observing and imitation of the happenings in the streets. Therefore by riding the activities from the streets, the young minds are safe as they take a right path in understanding about sex (Rigsby 58).
However, despite the positive aspects that cyber dating has contributed to the society, the negative attributes weighs heavily on the society in terms of immorality. Cyber dating has led to increased disloyalty and divorce among married partners (Strong &Cohen 311). This is due to the availability of numerous online dating sites offering privacy hence hard for one’s loyal partner to uncover disloyalty. Research shows that the increase of cyber dating websites has led to the increase of people engaging with numerous partners and eventually leading to break ups of families and divorce (Rubin et al 76).
Disloyalty leads to separation of families which greatly affects the children negatively due to an absence of a parent-figure in their lives. These break-ups have also led to drastic changes in marital niches whereby one partner has to act as both in the absence of another. Some state authorities don’t recognize bigamy which cyber dating contributes to, as in the case of Kody Brown; his 4 wives and 17 children who overturned Utah’s law against bigamy (Buchanan 48).
Cyber dating has led to an increase in interracial marriages especially in the U.S.A, hence a change in family patterns and attitudes about certain races and religion. This has been facilitated by the various online compatibility searches. Through elaboration of the race on the profiles the people are also able to include other attributes about themselves that they identify with. Through these attributes an appreciation of how people are similar regardless of color transpires. This challenges the aspect of racism as through the commonalities people share they find compatible grounds and enter into interracial relationships. This has helped prevent animosity and even war between certain cliques of people due to wrongly placed beliefs. The sharing of religious values and tradition with regards to relationships helps with the understanding of each other and establishing compatibility.
A care-giver is a person who helps others with impairment with their daily living activities. Cyber dating has greatly contributed to cyber care-giving by providing a platform where anybody with impairment especially mental can use the service to address their issues. This is through the online contact of people with same issues from where they share their experiences and mutually help each other. These relationships might later progress into romantic ones, fully satisfying one’s life goals.
With its various advantages, the cyber dating industry continues to change and evolve with people and their habits. In the future, most people of the world will be drawn to cyber dating mainly due to the convenience and accessibility. Our society has embraced cyber dating making it a social norm. It will surely become an integral part of society. With this knowledge, it is important to find ways to regulate the vices that transpire in cyber dating to make it advantageous to humanity. Negativism is present in every matter and cyber dating is not exceptional, therefore positivity can only accrue from the evident benefits.
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