Life History Analysis
The account of his life is typical of a standard family setting in American society. He narrates in detail the nuclear structure of his family. Equally, he describes the relationship he has with his family members. However, he does not give specific details. What comes out clearly is that he and his father do not have a father-son relationship that he may desire to have had while growing up. From that perspective, it is apparent that there is some aspect of lacking in his life as pertains to building a relationship with his father. Nonetheless, the account does not portray him to have close ties with his siblings either. However, he mentions that due to the estranged relationship between him and his father, he grew up closer to his mother. Whereas the family has had some financial problems, the challenge that the family underwent is not unique. Regardless, he shows disappointment in his father despite acknowledging that he is physically challenged and in a wheelchair. Instead, he notes that he would desire that his father does something about the financial dilemma that they have in their family and deliver on his duty as the bread winner. Further, he shows respect for his mother by acknowledging that his mother is both the mother and the ‘father’ in the house. By that he means that his father has abandoned his parental duties and left his mother to provide for the family as well as raise him and his siblings. He also mentions a brother who is 28 years, a sister who is 26 and another 24. Surprisingly, no mention of his siblings having jobs or helping out their mom is mentioned.
Moving farther back to the beginning of his life history, he testifies to have been a delinquent child from the tender age of eight. Through his teen years, he engaged in illicit drug use among his peers. However, his experiences score averagely for the typical American teenager growing up. Towards, the end of his narration a sense of hope is developed for a bright future, he shows ambition and dedication through his desire to join a reputable higher learning institution. In that regard, he has his goals set at Washington State University but would prefer to join the University of Oregon if only he could afford the tuition. His feelings of boredom in the absence of friends are normal since friendships usually present a hard time when letting go. Hence, his saddened mood is basically due to the realization that after graduating high school and heading to college he is most likely to lose contact with most of his friends. Nonetheless, joining the college in itself will present him with countless opportunities to forge new friendships.
Sentiments by Compas, Connor-Smith, and Saltzman suggest that children developing under stressful situations in the home or school environment have difficulty coping with problems in their lives (87). Consequently, such problems may influence the pace of their progress and affect their potential (Compas, Connor-Smith and Saltzman 120). In the same line, Connell points to evidence that children who grow up in stressful family set ups develop emotional and behavioral problems that start at the commencement of early childhood through adolescence and at times even into adulthood. The case presented is typical of the research findings given that delinquency is a sign of emotional distress in children and teenagers (Connell 4). Throughout his childhood, he was notorious in the classroom environment often having to be transferred from one school to another. Further, later in his teenage and high school years he engaged in illicit drug use with his friends. Such unruly behavior is a classic symptom of a difficult upbringing. Nonetheless, there is hope in the fact that he can outgrow such tendencies as he advances into his adult life.
The dream presents various allusions to his life. In summary, the dream begins with him conscious that he is sleeping in his bed. However, he experiences a seemingly supernatural experience when a blue light hovers over him that later reveals itself to be the spirit of a woman. He feels safe around her and notices that he is awake while at the same time still in slumber. He also transforms into a spirit form and gets out of the bed. He leaves his unconscious body lying on the bed. The purpose of the visitation by the female character is not clear to him. Nonetheless, he seems to have an understanding of why she is there. Momentarily, the female presence leads him to a table where he sits to find a pen and paper. She encourages him to write. Hence, he scribbles his piece of work that happens to be a masterpiece or exceptional piece of writing. Perhaps it was a drawing he cannot tell, but what he is certain of is that the female presence is in support of his work. Soon he is finished with the work as he looks up to her in a seeming requisition for approval. The female presence is pleased with his work as much as he, himself is contented with it. To that extent, the dream comes to a close, in his subconscious dream land he wonders who she is despite feeling a sense of familiarity about her. He acknowledges though that he only recognizes her in his dreams but not in reality. Regardless, he feels safe with her and thinks to himself that she could be his protector or guide.
According to Shewali Tiwari, a dream evaluation expert dreams have hidden meanings that reflect our inner feelings and state of mind based on our daily experiences. Hence, dreams can assist an individual in interpreting life or in gaining a perspective of the situations that he or she is experiencing. To that extent, dreams are a reflection of our realities in the unconscious mind, hence, interpreting dreams can have relevance in assisting individuals to cope with realities (Tiwari). The significance of the dream has various meanings that can be drawn mainly in regards to the experiences that he has gone through in his life. For instance, the dream begins with him experiencing a supernatural presence, according to Tiwari revelations of spirits, ghosts, or demons in dreams are a significance of internal emotional and mental strife. To that extent, there is a desire in him to change certain situations in his life. However, he feels that he is helpless in his condition. For instance, he wants his father to man-up by taking charge of his responsibilities as the breadwinner. Despite making it clear to his dad that he wishes the family did not have so many financial problems his father does not assist. He also wishes that he had a father-son relationship with his father, but sadly that could not happen for him. Another desire that he has is to join the University of Oregon, but he knows that his financial might would not make it unaffordable. Therefore, the manifestation of a supernatural being in his dream symbolizes his lack of willpower to take control of his life by addressing the problems that are squarely inhibiting various aspects of his life. Further, the symbol of a supernatural being also indicates the last resort for assistance given that only something extraordinary can serve to change his circumstances in life. That fact is apparent at the culmination of the dream where his achievement is acknowledged by himself as well as the supernatural being. The manifestation of the supernatural being is an indication that he declares his need for help to resolve his complications in the real world.
Secondly, an inference to a state of paralysis also develops when it happens that he subconsciously moves from the bed in his dream. He notices that he is in spirit form because he has left his body behind in bed. Tiwari observes that a state of paralysis in dreams indicates that an individual is experiencing a sense of loss of control. For that reason, the dreamer surrenders their locus of control to whatever is happening in the dream. In this respect, it can also be understood that he is surrendering the control of his life and being to the supernatural woman appearing in his dream. He is, therefore, acknowledging the fact that his challenges in life are beyond his control. For that reason, the paralyzed state of his body in bed is an indication that he cannot have control over circumstances, therefore, is willing to accept assistance. Towards the end of the dream, it becomes apparent that the supernatural being takes charge of him by encouraging him to sit down and scribble something on paper. He then senses a feeling of guidance and protection from the presence of the female presence. She ensures that he has achieved what he sat down to accomplish when scribbling down. Yet another interpretation is the act of writing that he completes by holding a pen, sitting down, and writing. To that extent, a dream about a test is an indication of anxiety as a state of mind. It could signify that an individual is worried about their capacity for achieving a given goal in their life. It also means that such a person is being tested, and their performance is being evaluated. In that regard, he successfully completes the act of writing that he set out to do (Tiwari). The allusion to a test or exam environment is evident, in the end, both he and the female guide in his dream are satisfied with his results. Therefore, the dream can be an indication of his triumph through the troubles that stand in his way in life. The dream ends with renewed hope seemingly to imply a sense of belief in himself through the successful completion of the exam.
Conspicuously though is the relevance of the female presence in his dream in comparison to the part that his mommy plays in his life. He acknowledges in his account of his dream that he felt a sense of recognition of the female presence. He also said that he felt as if she way protecting him or guiding him through life. Given that in the history of his childhood he attests to being closer to his mother than his father, the dream could indicate the role that his mother has played in his life in raising and nurturing him. Further, the female presence gives him a sense of security which can also be regarded as the role of a parent in making their children feel safe. Ultimately, the dream is a manifestation of his realities given that the analysis of the events in his dream and the development of his past or childhood ties together with the implied meanings manifested in the dream.
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Connell, Arin. “Effects on Emotional and Behavioral Problems from Early Childhood through Adolescence.” Policy Brief. 2009. Web. 2 12 2015. <http://schubert.case.edu/files/2013/12/connell_brief_final.pdf>.
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